Then I have another question if thats the case then why don’t we vent out what troubles us ? why do we pretend to be happy and all ok? In the last few days I have had the privilege to meet many strong people and realised that most of us don’t want to confront the truth and all we want to do is go with the flow and live under the presumption that all will be ok . we have always been told and made to believe that crying is for the weaker ones, especially the men (i feel sorry for them). So obviously why would anyone share , vent it out, avoid a volcano from bursting? Its the unaware mode where the mind is dictating what one should do next and with no after taught we operate like robots listening to all the commands we receive at all times . It took a while for me to realise what was happening , the best tool of course is meditation which makes things clearer. When I see most living in a oblivion I thought I should write about this because I am of the belief that life is not long enough for us to learn from our own mistakes so why not learn from others . If there is a problem, its important to choose a person with whom we can share our thoughts and of course one who doesn’t judge . It helps immensely if the thoughts are penned down and read out  , what I am trying to convey is , if the thought has been penned down or voiced out how many times will it occur again? All that the mind wants is importance for what it is saying and the moment we are aware about the thought, it will fade away . Its like we telling someone to stop doing something we can say once , twice , thrice may be innumerable times to someone who isnt listening to us . What if the person listen to us and say I understood , will we repeat the same thing again for a 100th time ? I think may be not(if you said may be yes, then that needs help ;))

I learnt that being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness but its strength to show others that I am vulnerable and its only human. We never know what we get to learn in the process of sharing and how that might change our lives . Ofcourse too much of anything is too bad so if we keep whining then God save us!

Listening helps immensely . Listening to the gut, intuition , people around , soul inside us . All that is happening around may have a message but we need to listen .

I believe happiness is a state of mind , but being genuinely happy and not running away from the reality is the sign of real happiness . not cleaning a wound will only aggravate it no?