Tag: livelife

Life happens, you like it or not

Life happens, you like it or not

You like it or not it is yours and for you to live,

Things will change and they are meant to, you like it or not.

Live in the present,
Soak in the space around, enjoy the very moment,
Devour the food in front of you,
Laugh with the loved one,
Listen to the person across the table,
Be involved in the meeting or classroom,
Hug someone completely, enjoy the moment like it is the last because it is!

The moment right now is Unique,
We cannot recreate it,
Every moment is a gift-wrapped for us with love from the creator,
You like it or not it is for you to unwrap.
We can choose to look away, look behind or look ahead but the moment is still here,
The moment is yours and for you to live.

It’s not anyone’s loss that you didn’t enjoy the moment but yours,
You can wallow all that you want on what was done or said or happened,
You can regret what didn’t happen or happened,
You can pine for what you don’t deserve,
You can chase for what you don’t want,
For life is still happening in the now, the moment is what we lose when we are chasing the then and later.

It’s not too late, it’s now or never,
Choose to live in the now or to look at the past,
NOW will give you learnings and a lot of opportunities,
THEN will tickle your brain and remind you of what is in the past,
NOW will give you what you didn’t get in the past,
But if you are busy looking behind, you will lose what is in the front,
For it’s not past that gives what you need but the present,
Look now, look in here, look within, look around, this is life, my dear.

Life is what happens while you chase the past or dream of the future,
Life is what you are missing because you are not in the present.
You did not choose your past but you can choose your NOW,
The choice is yours, to make the change,
Enjoy it while it lasts or look behind and complain in the end.

For life is what happens in the now my friend,
NOW is a choice, choose what you want,
Breathe in deeply and soak in the NOW,
It might be good or bad or painful but it is the truth,
You can choose to run away or hide but it won’t cease to happen,
If you live in the NOW the moment will cease soon, I promise,
Because change is life and nothing is here to stay.

There is a day after night, there is a rainbow after the rain, there is summer after winter, you like it or not,
Life is what is happening now my friend, you want it or not.

Non Judgement – A way of life

Judging :
I have been searching the meaning(not the dictionary one) for this word from long now . I got different answers but was never satisfied , i felt that was not it . My soul was not satiated . It is so easy to say “dont judge” but explain that ? we are told “just be with it”, so easy aint it? . So my fued with the word was on and finally here I am with an answer 🙂 . Feeling happy and wanted to share the happiness with all of you so wanted to blog this right away .
Judgement is adding or subtracting facts to something we see . Being non judgemental is just seeing the event or person undistorted , no adding past to it , no adding masala to it but seeing the event or person for that moment/instant.
let me try to explain this better may be via an example . When a spouse 😉 (best example no?) says he/she did not like a particular thing you did , listening to that feedback as it is will make sure we are being non judgemental and voila! we can remain calm and hence happy . What we typically do is (this its very normal by the way ) we listen to what he/she said and add all the past experiences /stories he /she said and make that into something else and respond . The other person wouldn’t be prepared and unassuming that you have derived a different meaning out of something  simple he/she said . And this can lead to a BIG issue and this is an ongoing issue with most people .
How about listening to that they said and responding to what was just said by not adding any past story, fact , assumptions and seeing the event for what it is.
Life its so simple yes so complicated . Imagine what if we are allowed to record our thoughts and play to others ? we wouldn’t have foes forget friends 😀 . I am amused and amazed with another learning and gratitude towards the universe. This is very simple yet difficult , how can we ensure we see the event or person for that moment or that incident? Did you just ask that? Well!  by being aware and by living in the present moment . Living in the present moment is by default being non judgemental in my opinion.  Lets live . Lets love . Lets stay happy

Why to stop judging?

I have been noticing one trait with lot of us from the time I have known myself . We are conditioned in a  way that we judge and we are constantly judging people around us , people in our lives without the knowledge that we have all become seasoned judges . How sad isn’t it? Do we even realise the kind of impact that will leave on another’s mind? especially a kids? No! we don’t. Why? because we are not even aware of the blunder we are busy committing day in and out . Thankfully we don’t go behind bars for being not so nice in our thoughts or behaviours with our family and friends and the best part is at most times the victim doesn’t even know he is suffering until a certain stage. All this because we judge . Our spouses, friends , families , kids , colleagues , etc etc etc I am not even going a little far and discussing politics or current affairs , thats unbearable 🙂

While all these thoughts have been juggling in my head for a while now , today I decided to put them here . What if one of us stop judging and stop accepting being judged ?

Just because I don’t think like you, I don’t become any lesser than you .

Just because I don’t do all that you like ,I don’t become a bad soul.

Just because I don’t do all that you want me to, I don’t become a fool.

Just because I don’t dream all that you do, my dreams don’t become void.

just because I am not like you ,I don’t become a nobody.

Just because you don’t see me for what I am , I don’t cease to exist.

Just because I am not a part of your world ,I don’t become an alien.

Just because you think you are right, I don’t become wrong!

Just because you don’t see the good in me , I don’t become bad.

Just because you think you are smart, I don’t become dumb.

Just because you want me to be you , I won’t become a clone.

We are all unique and no two people are same on this planet  . Lets please stop judging , categorising folks around us and accept them for what they are and who they are. Just because we don’t see the good , they don’t become bad