Tag: thoughts

Life from above there :-)

I love flying , even if they are long hauls , even if I get cramps in my legs , even if that makes me want to jump from the plane .. sighhhhh.. I still love flying . It gives wings to me , it makes me feel like I am in the world I dream of always , amongst clouds in the lala land . I love weaving stories from clouds , giving them shape and names in my mind 🙂 .  I like the fact that I am floating midair out of no where which wouldn’t happen otherwise . There is another reason why i love to fly , “perspectives” .  It gives me perspectives . The houses, buildings , people , things that look so big and larger than life to me becomes like ants and eventually vanish into thin air . It makes me realise its all about how we see things and nothing beyond that . yes! even the plane looks like a toy when we look at it from the ground . Since we live down here  we don’t see things the way we would from 30000 feet and above ..

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Isn’t it an amazing  realisation that what we see can eventually vanish as we go up? My monkey mind went a step ahead and gave me another perspective of this perspective(ok ok! I know :)) Allow me to explain the “perspective’ism “(no! there is no word like that in the dictionary so I created one , Ahem!) since we humans inflate our problems into bigger ones and believe we have the biggest of problems on this planet and pray to God everyday to help ( I am always told God lives above us ), so can GOD, even hear us as they are up high ? Don’t we become invisible to them, how will they even see us lest hear us?

Now comes the point , Is that why we are told our lives are in our hands ? we are given life to take care of it and thats the best God can do? Waiting and doing nothing will never help us as we have to act ? This is how I look at it . Our life is in our hands until we are alive , what do you say ? 🙂

what will people think??

I am one among the people and even I am surrounded by people but yet that statement is something I am just not fond of . We are a “society being” , I agree . We are answerable to our near and dear ones I know .. Yet! what they think is not in our control no ? If they are here to judge , then will our clarifying ever matter to them at all? People have to say something and they will . Even if they don’t loudly , their subconscious mind will prompt not so nice things which leaves an imprint on them without their knowledge , now thats a BIG game . How can we decide what others think? How can we change what others think? How do we know how others think? How are we responsible for how others think?

Now lets assume we have control of how others think through our actions , then considering there are 7 bn unique beings alive on this planet how do we know that most think alike , oh yeah! our circle is not 7 bn I know ok lets say 20 people how do we know what all the 20 will think , is it them thinking or is it we thinking on their behalf? isn’t it our negative thoughts that run on their behalf most times ? I have noticed 90% of the time all that I think is futile , no one cares . . At any given point of time there will be someone who doesn’t like something most likes , wait there will be an aesthist in that 20 so he doesn’t necessarily like GOD(the creator) himself 🙂 so then how can we ensure all of them are liking what we say or do? then will we have time to live our lives ? Or will we have enough time to ensure we are keeping everyone happy. How do we necessarily know everyone around us is happy ? And isn’t our purpose to keep ourselves happy? Will we ever be content and happy , if we are in this race of making others happy . Thinking for others , living for others . Will there be a day we wake up and realize that we lived our lives pleasing others to realise there is no life left to live ? people who matters will understand, if they don’t then they never mattered no? people and society matters but they can’t be the only thing that matters there is “we” beyond that ..  WE , the life ..

Social Media or Anti Social Media , My new year resolution.

Technology/digital / social media I always believed will help in bringing people together . I felt it’s about being social and not anti social . It’s about virtually meeting people across the globe and learning more . However yesterday I had this realisation that I was wrong!

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Technology is taking away from us the ability to be “human” . It s making us anti social . We are forgetting that taking action doesn’t mean a post or like or retweets. I have been unwell and been home yesterday and this thought dawned upon me (idle mind :)). When I go on whatsapp first thing unconsciously I see is what time was the other person online last , but why did I have to know that or even look at that? Is it my intent to know more or is it that we are insecure or is it plain curiosity? I don’t understand why we are blinded by these apps and platforms . Isn’t addiction the right word?  So many thoughts occurred to me like,
Why we sit across a table with friends and stare at our phones . Why we can’t live without touching our phones for even an hour. What if we spent the phone time on people who is a part of our life . What if we hugged them more than fidgeting on the phone .
What if we said I love you in person than updating a status and professing love .
What if we expressed our gratitude in person , folding hands . How about stop envying the “social happy posts” we see and get real?
So i decided to take action and make this a resolution for this year , I will call people and wish them on their birthdays or special days , I already started this from November last year partially . I mean why not? I am human and I can speak and may be bray(read sing) once in a while .
I have decided to stay off phone completely even when am at traffic signals , I give 50% of my time to day dream and 50% to phone when am stalled at a signal , now 100% off phone 😉
 I plan to keep my phone in my bag while am at lunch or dinner with family or friends as the world can wait while I eat my meal .
I have decided not to humiliate the person sitting across the table with me having a conversation by staring at the gadget which can’t emote .
I have decided not to take my phone out of my bag while I am In a meeting room .
I have decided to give my 100% to whatever I do . My time is precious so is the person’s who decided to spend it with me , time to get human and respect each other .. oh! Don’t you worry there are a zillion people on social media and they can survive with us .
PS: If there is an emergency needless to say we have to use our phones and that wont change , if I am found violating my above resolution I request you to bring it to my notice .

“Gratitude” Universe

And I always thought my problems are bigger ..

We at R SQUARE are handling India Inclusion Summit 2016 in November and Rohit is curating the speakers . During one such event he was to meet Priyanka one of the speakers and asked me to tag along . I wasn’t sure why I was going yet happily went with no expectations. We were to meet her near the Ganesha temple inside embassy golf links and thanks to Ms. Google we reached the venue correctly . I see a smiling face walk out of the building and Rohit call her name out and that was when I realized she was priyanka and was partially blind. Now my senses were all alert and watching her as I felt responsible , she said we could go to the cafeteria and lead us without the stick and I was amazed until she almost walked through a barricade and I abruptly stopped her . She then asked me if she could hold my hands and I readily agreed and of course reached the cafeteria and settled there . While they were speaking about her life I was watching them and listening with rapt attention , I clicked a pic too. I thought we had so much stress in our day to day life until I met her . I always believed as humans, until we loose what we have we wont value it and until we see bad we don’t understand what is good .

She spoke about her childhood in a Marwari family , the upbringing . Her losing her eye sight and still leaving home to pursue her career, her struggle in the corporate sea like IBM , her commuting , her passion for dance etc

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It made me think what problems do I really have ? In fact we create problems that we don’t have with all the time we have with us . I couldn’t go for a holiday , I missed buying something , I fought with someone , the traffic jam, no network etc. I was so ashamed at the fact that we live to create problems and people like priyanka to fight the real problems that exists . Who is more capable here ? Need I answer ?

We will at most times have a ready list of what we don’t have. Well who appreciates what is there ? Isn’t our purpose to chase what we don’t have ? Isn’t that how it has worked from years now ? Hasn’t that become our way of living ? I snapped back from all the thoughts towards the “now” and she said she wanted to take a selfie and I happily jumped at the thought of it 🙂

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what we always miss is to thank the universe for the life we have , to thank the five senses without which the world wouldn’t have been the same . The ability to talk, walk, eat , drink , touch when we want is the freedom we own and should be happy about . She said bye and cheerfully went back to her life not before she made me think so much . I have a feeling that IIS is going to change my life with so many stories told and untold .. I can only say Gratitude to the universe for I was again reminded to appreciate what I have ..

#Tree

In the midst of the hustle bustle of traffic on old madras road there stands a tree , tall , high and elegant .. I have been driving on that road from years now but for some reason I have never noticed her .. A couple of days ago I was stuck at the signal and was busy watching at the people, vehicles, infrastructure and there she was in the corner .. She looked beautiful and had a charm that I cant describe in words.

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Nothing around her seemed to deter her . Was she used to it or it never mattered to her asked my mind . I couldn’t stop staring at her , she looked hale and was busy dancing to the wind( or was it pollution from the vehicle) . The noise from the vehicles around or the metro above didn’t seem to reach her . She was in her own zone , she had no expectations from us ,Demons . She knew she was here for a purpose, a purpose to give and go away . She was so clear of her responsibilities that she was on the task of supplying oxygen and  providing shelter to many birds and shade to us . My mind was busy giving me more details like She wouldn’t make a hue and cry if she was felled . She never complained . She looked happy …
I immediately snapped into reality with a car honking just behind me at the red signal and saw the irony of us humans who can’t wait when we are supposed to . We complaint even when we have everything and are never thankful to all that we have . We believe expectations is our birth right . Patience is a word  in the dictionary and intolerance a favourite act . I didn’t want to react to the honking so I waited for the signal to turn green and vroomed away on my path. My mind saying “She taught you a lot by not speaking “, I smiled , agreed and I thanked her in my mind .. I would love to be a tree I thought ..