What do we actually do when someone hurts us? We chase them asking them for the “why”, ask the Universe “why me” , replay the scene a million times in loop if we are an over thinker perhaps? Blame the other person for all the fault so that we don’t have to take accountability for anything? Play victim maybe? Ok I personally am good at shutting down too 🙂 . So many ways to deal with hurt and I am sure there are hundred more ways I am yet to discover .I guess you get the gist of where I am coming from. And this is exactly what I have done and I have seen people around me do growing up as a kid and as an adult now. It’s a drill , I mean aren’t we all preprogrammed to follow the drill?

I have lived in the same loop or ways for all my life and also have witnessed my loved ones suffer in their own creative ways because of a hurt. However that flipped for me as I had an aha moment and the whole credit goes to Social Media (the evil one of course 🙂 ). I was fortunate to stumble upon a video which had an amazing story. What do we do if we are bit by a snake? Do we chase the snake for miles, blame it, fight it and die or do we chose to go to a doctor and get ourselves healed? the latter for most people I assume. Then why do we actually run around and chase the people who hurt us ? Is it because they are people? or because we don’t know what the overthinking, stress, anger, blame is doing to our own bodies? I cannot fathom the damage the negative toxic thoughts must have done to the cells in my body for so many years.

This was a pic while I was in NYC. I don’t know why I chose this image for this blog.

Here, I learnt that when I am hurt the first thing I should do is look within and see how I am feeling? what is happening and why did I feel that way? what was really happening and all this as an “observer”. Yes! Observer the word you would have heard from millions of gurus, therapists , books etc ..

I choose to become an observer when I am hurt and see what is playing out in my body and what is the story my mind is weaving. It has been a mind blowing revelation. It is so soothing and loving for myself, I feel seen and heard and in that light I am also able to see the other person for who they are. This is a practise and I have just begun my journey. I am working on making this a way of my life. I was hoping this learning of mine will help someone out there to be able to move on in their life and heal themselves from all the pain they have been holding on to. Instead of getting angry ,resentful and hoping the anger in us will hurt others just experience the anger and see it, label it, process it and release it. It has reduced the weight on my shoulders and I am truly lighter than how I was yesterday. All this because loving ourselves is the only way of life!!

I believe if I can do it so can others. I think the only way to do this is through continuous practise!

Love and Light